“A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it's in hot water.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
Audre Lorde is making an argument for solidarity that goes beyond sympathy. She is saying that freedom is not truly her own as long as another woman remains oppressed, even if the form of that oppression looks nothing like what she herself has faced. The phrase "very different from my own" is key: it resists the easy assumption that only shared experience creates shared cause. True freedom, in this view, is indivisible.
Lorde delivered these words in a speech in 1981, a period when conversations about the intersections of race, gender, and sexuality were actively reshaping feminist thinking in the United States. Her work consistently challenged movements that centered a narrow definition of womanhood and excluded those whose identities were more complex or more marginalized. This line captures a principle she returned to often: that a feminism which leaves some women behind is not yet the feminism it needs to be.
Audre Lorde was a Black American poet, essayist, and activist whose writing drew on her experiences as a Black woman, a lesbian, and a mother. She held academic positions and lectured widely, but her most lasting influence came through her essays and poetry, which gave language to experiences that had rarely been named in public life. Works she produced in the 1970s and 1980s remain central texts in feminist, Black, and queer literary traditions. She spoke of herself as a warrior poet, someone who used language as a tool for survival and for change.
“A woman is like a tea bag; you never know how strong it is until it's in hot water.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“We should all be feminists.”
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie · 2012 TEDxEuston talk, later a 2014 book
“I raise up my voice not so I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard.”
Malala Yousafzai
“Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for all women.”
Maya Angelou
“Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.”
Buddha · The Dhammapada
“No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be the true.”
Nathaniel Hawthorne · The Scarlet Letter, 1850
“Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.”
Don Miguel Ruiz · The Four Agreements, 1997
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any.”
Alice Walker
“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”
W. B. Yeats
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
André Gide · Autumn Leaves, 1950
“If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company.”
Jean-Paul Sartre
“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”
Robin Williams